Lesbian

Lesbian（Lesbian)existChineseThe evolution of society, from obscure ancient records to diverse contemporary subcultures, has become an important symbol of gender and sexual orientation pluralism. According to the latest data in 2025, the lesbian app "The L" in mainland China has over 12 million registered users, the proportion of lesbians in Taiwan reaches 15%, and Hong Kong has over 500,000 active community members.

Historical Context: From Ancient Mirror Polishing to Modern Lesbian Revolution

The history of lesbian relationships among Chinese people can be traced back to the pre-Qin period.Biographies of Exemplary Women"and"Strategies of the Warring StatesAlthough not directly recorded, it hints at intimate relationships among women in the palace. In the Han Dynasty court, the relationships between female officials and concubines...Pair of foodThe phenomenon was already emerging, referring to two women forming partnerships and sharing food and life. During the Tang and Song dynasties, lesbian culture became more literary, such as...Li YeThe poem "Expressing Feelings" metaphorically represents the affection between women. During the Ming and Qing dynasties, the term "mirror-polishing party" became a classic expression, originating from the work of the Qing scholar Chu Renhuo.jianhujiThe text describes how women in Yangzhou formed societies and engaged in sexual intercourse at night, refusing male involvement. This phenomenon was prevalent in brothels and boudoirs along the Qinhuai River, reflecting women's emotional outlets within a patriarchal society.

In the late 19th century, with Western influence, the Shanghai concessions became a breeding ground for lesbian culture. The 1930s saw the rise of the "Modern Girl" era.Hu DieRumors frequently circulated about actresses such as Ruan Lingyu.Ruan LingyuThe love triangle with Tang Jishan contains elements of lesbianism. After 1949, mainland China entered a taboo period, and lesbians were regarded as "morally corrupt," forcing many to hide or undergo "correction." In Taiwan, the feminist movement emerged in the 1970s, and after martial law was lifted in the 1980s, the term "拉子" (lazi) became popular, derived from the transliteration of "Lesbian." In the 1990s, Taiwan's first lesbian organization, the "Taiwan Lesbian Alliance," appeared and published "The Lesbian Handbook."

After 2000, the internet revolution accelerated the spread of lesbian culture. In mainland China, forums like "Tianya Community" and "Blue Enchantress" became early gathering places, and in 2005, Li Yinhe's book "Homosexual Subculture" broke the silence. Influenced by Britain in the 1990s, Hong Kong saw the emergence of "lesbian bars," with Causeway Bay becoming a hotspot. In the 2010s, the rise of smartphone apps led to "LESDO" and "Rela" becoming popular platforms for lesbian dating in mainland China. In 2019, Taiwan passed its same-sex marriage law, becoming the first region in Asia to legalize lesbian marriage, inspiring movements in mainland China and Hong Kong. In 2024, the Hong Kong Court of Final Appeal ruled that the government must recognize the rights of same-sex couples, symbolizing the transition of Chinese lesbians from the margins to the mainstream.

Historically, lesbian culture has often been intertwined with class: in ancient times it was prevalent among upper-class women, while in modern times it has expanded to the middle and lower classes. Cultural anthropologists point out that this reflects the "yin-yang balance" view in Chinese society, but under the patriarchal framework, lesbians are often stigmatized as "unfilial" or "pathological." In 2025, with the global LGBTQ+ movement, the history of Chinese lesbians is being rewritten, with documentaries such as "Their Love" and the novel "Taipei People" becoming important documents.

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Identity Spectrum and Classification: From T/P Binary to Multiple Schools of Thought

The classification of contemporary Chinese lesbian identities has transcended the traditional binary framework, forming a rich spectrum. The core classification originates from Taiwan's "T/P" system of the 1990s:

• T (Tomboy/Iron T/Handsome T): Male appearance, responsible for the active role, often wears unisex clothing, ratio approximately 15%. The extreme is "pure T", who refuses any passive behavior and considers it the core of their identity.
• P (Po/Wife/Pure P)Feminine, prefers to be cared for, ratio approximately 20%. Pure P emphasizes gentleness and enjoys being pursued.
• Not distinguishable /H (Half)The roles of attacker and receiver are determined by mood and are not fixed. By 2025, the proportion will reach 551 TP3T, reflecting the fluid identity of Generation Z.
• Buf/BuffetOriginally a derogatory term for "buffet" implying infidelity, it has now been renamed "flexible" by the younger generation, emphasizing exploration.
• FemmeShe has a very feminine appearance but is proactive, which often leads to misunderstandings by straight men.
• NB (Non-Binary Les)Rejecting binary labels and incorporating transgender elements, the number of transgender people has surged by 10% in recent years.

Category classification is influenced by region: Taiwan has the strictest T/P (transaction/preference) rules, mainland China is more flexible, and Hong Kong, influenced by the West, has seen the emergence of "Lipstick Les." Psychological research shows that identity classification helps lesbians construct their self-construction, but it can also lead to internal discrimination, such as the phenomenon of "T worship." In 2025, apps like "The L" will have built-in category filters to help users quickly match, but this has also sparked controversy: does it reinforce stereotypes? Sociologists believe that this is a "mimicry" strategy by lesbians under heterosexual norms, borrowing heterosexual role models to express love.

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Social Networking Ecosystem and Platforms: From Offline Gatherings to the Digital Revolution

The lesbian dating landscape in China is projected to be digitally dominated by the internet by 2025. Early development relied on offline venues: Taiwanese lesbian bars in the 1990s, such as Taipei's "Red House," Hong Kong's Causeway Bay "Les Bars," and underground gatherings in Beijing's Sanlitun district. After 2000, the rise of online forums, with platforms like "Tianya" and "Douban Groups" becoming havens for lesbians in mainland China.

Today, apps dominate the market:

• The LThe flagship app in mainland China, with 12 million users, strict real-name registration, and a built-in "Lala Map" to locate nearby users. A "trial marriage mode" will be added in 2025, allowing users to simulate cohabitation.
• LESDOA long-established brand that has transitioned to offline events, hosting "Les Parties" every month in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, with over 10,000 participants.
• Zoe/TaimiInternational apps are experiencing a surge in users in mainland China due to policy flexibility.
• Xiaohongshu/DcardA semi-public platform that uses coded language such as "Let's go eat hot pot".

Popular physical locations include: Taipei's Ximending Red House, Shanghai's Jing'an Temple bars, Guangzhou's Tianhe South Park, Chengdu's Jiuyanqiao Cafe, and Shenzhen's Nantou Art District. Social interaction options are diverse: speed dating, group chats, and themed parties. Generation Z prefers "best friends turning into lovers," with high school friendships naturally developing into romantic relationships.

The challenge lies in security: mainland Chinese apps are frequently censored, and the shutdown of "Rela" in 2024 triggered panic. Hong Kong lesbians face social division following the "anti-extradition" movement, while Taiwan enjoys greater freedom. Data shows that the average age for lesbians to start dating has dropped to 22, and long-distance relationships are surging, such as the cross-strait relationship between a Taipei lesbian (T) and a Shenzhen lesbian (P). The dating ecosystem reflects economic factors: middle-class lesbians tend to use paid apps, while those at the grassroots level rely on free platforms.

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Lesbian sex

Lesbian sexual culture is unique in the Chinese-speaking world, emphasizing emotion and interaction rather than penetration. Keywords include:

• Ground tofu/tofuClitoral rubbing is the most classic position, originating from the ancient "mirror grinding".
• Finger skillsIt is divided into two-finger exploration, three-finger stimulation, and whole-fist advancement, influenced by the Taiwanese medical school.
• Two-headed dragonShared dildos, enjoyable for pure Ps, often rejected by pure Ts.
• Vaginal suction device/fairy wandCombining vibration and sucking.
• Lala painThe peak of sexual desire before menstruation is directed towards a female partner.

10 most common lesbian sex positions

Ranking	name	Participation rate	Difficulty	Essential props	One sentence is the key point
1	Ground tofu/tofu	96%	★☆☆	none	Clitoral-to-clitoral friction, a lesbian's "missionary"
2	Finger exercises (two fingers/three fingers)	94%	★★☆	finger cots + lubricant	The three major school of thought: the NTU school, the Taipei Medical University school, and the mainland-affiliated violent school.
3	69 Mutual Licking	89%	★★☆	none	The fairest posture
4	Using a vaginal suction device and fingers	82%	★★☆	vaginal suction device	The hottest sex toy combo of 2024
5	Two-headed dragon	73%	★★★	Two-headed dragon	Pure Ts usually refuse, pure Ps love them.
6	Fairy wand (vibrator)	68%	★☆☆	vibrator	It can be used by a single person, but couples often use it to warm up their appliances.
7	Fist-to-fist (full fist)	41%	★★★★★	Extra Lubricant	Advanced gameplay, only a very small number of people can accept it.
8	Leg rubbing/thigh clamp	35%	★☆☆	none	You can do it even while wearing pants, a hidden version in public places.
9	nipple to clitoris	28%	★★☆	none	Couples with height difference
10	Facesitting	25%	★★★	none	The posture that gives the strongest sense of dominance

Detailed instruction on three classic poses

1. Grinding tofu

• Best positions: Missionary position (one on top, one below) or side-lying scissor position
• Ultimate Technique:

1. Both of them should apply lubricant first (water-based is best).
2. Align the clitoris (the angle needs to be just right for it to feel good).
3. The person below uses their pelvis to draw an 8, while the person above uses their thighs to clamp the other person's waist.
4. Accelerating together → Usually climaxing simultaneously within 30 seconds to 3 minutes

• Advanced: Add a vaginal suction device to the clitoris below → Instant ascension

2. Three major schools of finger kung fu

• National Taiwan University's method: With two fingers together, first draw circles on the vulva → slowly insert → find the G-spot (2-4cm from the anterior wall) → bend your fingers like a hook.
• Peking University Medical School: Insert three fingers, first find the G-spot and then accelerate → Simultaneously rub the clitoris with your thumb → Rub the nipple with your other hand.
• Lu-style violent style: Four fingers + whole fist, super-large amount of lubricant, specializing in depth and speed.

3. 69 Mutual Licking

• Best position: Lie on your side at 69 degrees (this will not put pressure on your neck)
• Ultimate combo: The one on top sits and grinds, the one on the bottom licks → Simultaneous action makes it easiest for both to climax.

Item Combination

Wearable vibrators: Ts (thongs) can wear them and become "Ts with penises," allowing even Ts to enjoy penetration pleasure. Safety is paramount in lesbian practice: finger cots and oral mucosa are used to prevent STIs. Psychologically, lesbian sex emphasizes "aftercare," with post-coital hugs strengthening the bond. Culturally, it is influenced by Japanese AV and Western lesbian pornography, but Chinese lesbians often criticize its objectification.

Vaginal suction device + fingers: The vaginal suction device grips the clitoris, while fingers simultaneously penetrate the G-spot → 95% users experience orgasm within 3 minutes.

Double-headed dragon + vaginal suction device: inserting and suctioning at the same time → Pure P's favorite

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Two-headed dragon tutorial

First, figure out which faction you belong to (to decide how to buy and use it).

type	Features	Suitable for two-headed dragons	Percentage (2025 data)
Pure T + Pure P	T completely rejects being penetrated, while P loves being penetrated.	Extra long and extra thick (over 45cm)	28%
T+H	T can occasionally be inserted	Medium-length soft silicone (35–40cm)	42%
Undifferentiated / H+H	Both of them wanted to penetrate and be penetrated.	Flexible U-shaped or symmetrical	30%

5 Two-Headed Dragons

1. Fun Factory ShareVibe (Wearable Vibration Version)
2. Tantus Feeldoe (Strapless Wearable Version)
3. Lovense Lapis (App-controlled bendable version)
4. Extra-long double-ended silicone (45–50cm)
5. Glass Double-Headed Dragon (Usable for both ice and fire)

Complete hands-on tutorial on two-headed dragons

body position	T's movement essentials	P's cooperation principles	Simultaneous orgasm probability
Rear-entry (doggy style)	T held P's waist with his hands and thrust in and out forcefully like a man.	P sticks her butt out high and rubs her clitoris.	92%
Side-lying scissor position	T hugs P tightly from behind, drawing an "8" with her pelvis and then gently jerking back and forth.	P raises her upper leg and clamps it around T's waist.	96%
Woman on top, man on bottom (P riding T)	T lies flat, hands grasping P's chest or buttocks to control the rhythm.	P sits up and down + rubs back and forth.	98% (highest)
69 Dai Longshi	While T is at 69, use the double-headed dragon to insert P below.	P was inserted at the same time as 69 below.	94%
Standing face to face	T picks up P and pins him against the wall (requires T's core to be strong enough).	P wrapped her legs around T's waist.	88%

StepSection 0: Foreplay + Lubrication

1. Both partners should orgasm first (either through rubbing or 69) → the vagina will naturally secrete fluids and relax.
2. Each person should prepare one bottle of water-based lubricant (at least 200ml).
3. Apply lubricant to the entire double-headed dragon tube and the vaginal openings of both women (really, so much that it will drip).

Phase 1: Classic Missionary Double Insertion

• Position: The two lie face to face with their legs spread in an M shape.
• action:

1. One person inserts the double-headed dragon into themselves (stop when it's in a comfortable position).
2. The other person holds the other end with one hand and slowly sits down into her vagina.
3. Both of their pelvises rocked back and forth simultaneously (like they were fighting).

• The ultimate rhythm: 8 slow thrusts → 8 fast thrusts → pause and rub each other's clitoris for 3 seconds → then continue.
• Average orgasm duration: 8-15 minutes for the first time, and 3-5 minutes after becoming more experienced.

Phase 2: Scissors Double Dragon (Easiest to achieve simultaneous orgasm)

• Position: Both people lie on their sides with their legs crossed in a scissor shape (genitals to genitals).
• action:

1. Bend the double-headed dragon into a U-shape and insert the middle part into the vaginas of the two people.
2. Both of them squeezed towards the middle at the same time and rubbed up and down.
3. Clitoral stimulation due to mutual contact + simultaneous insertion of dual-headed dildos → double stimulation

• Advanced: One person wears a wearable vibrating dual-headed dragon, while the other person is directly penetrated.

Phase 3: Back-to-Back Double Dragons

• Posture: Two people kneeling or lying down back to back
• Action: The two-headed dragons simultaneously penetrate from behind, and both thrust backward at the same time.
• The sensation: It felt like being penetrated by two penises at the same time, the depth was terrifying.
• Note: Use plenty of lubricant and insert slowly, otherwise it will hurt.

Phase 4: T wears a double-headed dragon and inserts it into P.

• Prop: Wearable Two-Headed Dragon
• practice:

1. T inserts the shorter end into his vagina (it will get stuck and won't fall out).
2. The longer end is for malespenisInsert P
3. T can use pelvic thrusting while simultaneously being penetrated herself.

• The hottest way to play: While the T is wearing a vibrator and penetrating, the P uses a vaginal suction device to suck the T's clitoris → Both of them break down together.

IV. Climax Killer Techniques

At the moment of climax, the two called each other's names simultaneously.

Stop when penetration is at its deepest point, and the two rub their clitoris together for 30 seconds.

One person controls the rhythm, the other moans; just before climax, one suddenly speeds up, the other suddenly stops—delayed climax is more intense.

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Survival Strategies and Social Challenges: From Marriage of Convenience to Coming Out

Chinese lesbians have diverse survival strategies:

• Publicly coming out as gay (15%)Mostly Taiwanese and returnees, they establish homes through artificial insemination or adoption.
• Marriage of convenience (30%)Sham marriages with gay men, followed by the birth of children and subsequent freedom of choice, are the mainstream practice in mainland China.
• Fake straight woman (55%)Hiding one's identity, living a normal life during the day, and dating at night.

Social challenges include family pressure: accusations of "filial impiety" are common, and many people are forced into arranged marriages. Workplace discrimination exists, although the tech industry is more tolerant. Mental health issues are serious: the depression rate is 30%, due to social stigma. By 2025, support groups such as Taiwan's "LGBT Hotline" and the "Beijing LGBT Center" in mainland China will provide counseling.

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Media Literature and Popular Culture Influence

Media portrayals of lesbians: the Taiwanese drama *Tears of the God of Fire* depicts them directly; the mainland novel *Beijing Story* expresses them subtly; the Hong Kong film *Uncle* explores coming out. Literature such as Pai Hsien-yung's *Crystal Boys* and Chiu Miao-chin's *Montmartre Testament* have become classics. Short video platforms like TikTok popularize "lesbian daily life," but also face censorship.

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Rights Movements and Policy Progress

The movement began with Taiwan's Pride Parade in the 1990s, reaching its peak with the enactment of the same-sex marriage law in 2019. Mainland China relies on NGOs, while Hong Kong's 2024 ruling represents a breakthrough. Future efforts should focus on employment equality and anti-discrimination laws.

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Mental Health and Future Trends

Psychological issues include internalizing homophobia; future trends include: Generation Z becoming more confident, increasing transnational marriages, and technologies such as VR dating changing the landscape.

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Lesbian conclusion

Chinese lesbian culture is a symbol of diversity and resilience, thriving despite challenges. The future requires greater inclusivity and the promotion of equality.

Further reading:

• Women's famous utensils
• Female G-spot
• Contraction of the vaginal muscles (vaginal orgasm)
• Does a woman's vagina get bigger if she has sex more often?