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Control the level of stimulation during foreplay
During the foreplay stage, excessive stimulation is often the main cause of rapid ejaculation. For example, if you allow your partner to give your penis oral or manual stimulation for a long time before sex, sensitivity will increase rapidly and reach a climax. When you then enter the stage of sexual intercourse, even with just the slightest movement, you may reach orgasm instantly because of the excessive stimulation that has accumulated. Therefore, it is recommended to moderate the intensity and duration of stimulation during foreplay. For example, you can communicate with your female partner and ask her to avoid overly intense actions, or shift your attention to other forms of intimate interactions, such as kissing, caressing the whole body, etc., which can effectively prolong your endurance.
Specifically, you can imagine the following scenario: If your female partner stimulates you with oral sex for a long time, your penis is already in a highly excited state. When you engage in sexual intercourse, it can hardly withstand additional stimulation and ejaculation is almost inevitable. Therefore, it is a very important skill to properly distribute the rhythm of foreplay so that the stimulation is not too concentrated.
The impact of mental state on performance
In addition to physiological control, the influence of psychological state on sex cannot be ignored. I once had the experience of encountering two female companions at a shiatsu place whose breasts were obviously artificial, which instantly turned me off. At that time, I found that the sensitivity of my penis had decreased significantly, and I even had no urge to ejaculate at all, which made the sex time unexpectedly prolonged. This experience made me realize that the level of psychological excitement will directly affect the physiological response. Sexual stamina tends to improve if you are relaxed or content with the situation.
Therefore, it is recommended to adjust your mentality before sex. You can try to focus on the intimate connection with your partner and enjoy the present atmosphere instead of focusing only on the result of ejaculation. This change in mindset can help reduce psychological stress and thus prolong sexual intercourse time.
The Importance of Changing Your Masturbation Habits
Masturbation (commonly known as "hand job") is another important factor that affects sexual performance, especially on the psychological level. If your masturbation habit is to achieve quick ejaculation and pursue short-term pleasure, over time, your brain will gradually form a conditioned reflex: once the penis is stimulated, it will quickly enter ejaculation mode. This is undoubtedly detrimental to sexual performance because it makes you accustomed to quick orgasms and unable to adapt to sexual intercourse that requires a longer period of time.
To improve this, the following two approaches are recommended:
- Reduce the frequency of masturbation: If conditions permit, you can choose to have real sex with your partner, or go to legal places (such as "Happy") to satisfy your needs and reduce your dependence on masturbation. This prevents the brain from forming a habit of rapid ejaculation.
- Adjust your masturbation style: If you must masturbate, try to vary your technique to simulate the rhythm of real sex. Specifically, you can slow down your movements and focus on feeling the entire process rather than just pursuing the pleasure of ejaculation. For example, when masturbating, imagine having sex with your partner, stimulate slowly, and acclimate yourself to a state of arousal for a longer period of time. This method can help you retrain your brain and gradually increase your tolerance for stimulation.
Other useful suggestions
In addition to the above methods, you can also try the following techniques to improve your sexual performance:
- Practice breath control:During sex, breathing deeply and slowly can help relax your body and reduce feelings of over-excitement.
- Distraction:When you feel yourself approaching orgasm, try distracting yourself, such as focusing on your partner's expression or other parts of their body, to slow down the buildup of stimulation.
- Use condoms:Condoms not only provide protection, but they can also slightly reduce the sensitivity of the penis, helping to prolong sex.
- Communicate with your partner:Discussing your needs and feelings openly with your partner and exploring together the rhythm and method that best suits you both can be very helpful in improving the quality of sex.
- To use the delay spray:Delay spray is an external product, an adult product, designed specifically to prolong the duration of sexual intercourse. Unlike aphrodisiacs, delay sprays are suitable for normal people and do not require a prescription. They mainly delay ejaculation by reducing the sensitivity of the penis.
Summarize
Prolonging the duration of sex is not something that can be achieved overnight; it requires both physiological and psychological approaches. By controlling the level of stimulation during foreplay, adjusting your mental state, and changing your masturbation habits, you can gradually improve your sexual performance. The core of these methods is to make you focus more on the overall experience of sex rather than just pursuing the instant pleasure of ejaculation. At the same time, good communication and mutual cooperation with your partner are also indispensable. Hopefully, these tips will help you have a better experience during sex and increase intimacy with your partner.
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