What is the side-lying sex position?
Ladies' Choice Pose(Also known as "Lady's Choice"): The woman lies on her back on the bed (legs together or slightly together), and the man kneels on the bed/beside the bed, entering from the front, with his hands supporting him on either side of the woman's body or holding her waist/thighs. The man's kneeling position allows him to control the depth, speed, and angle, while the woman lies completely relaxed, enjoying the feeling of being "served".
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The name of this position, "Ladies' Choice," comes from the fact that it makes women feel like they are "choosing" to enjoy themselves (lying down and waiting for men to please them). Visually, it also creates a contrast between domination and being pampered. Many women say it's a "spoiled" position because they can focus on pleasure without having to exert any effort.
The difference between a standard missionary and a standard missionary
- standardmissionaryThe boy is completely on top of the girl, with his legs usually spread apart. It's intimate but also creates a strong sense of pressure.
- Ladies' Choice Variation: The man kneels (upper body upright or slightly leaning forward), the woman's legs are together or slightly raised, the vagina is tighter (because the legs together make the vaginal walls clench tighter), the man has a better view and can see the woman's expression/breasts, making it easier to thrust vigorously or grind slowly.
What are the advantages of making a side-entry gate?
- Female orgasm is easyBringing your legs together makes the vagina tighter and increases friction, for men.penisIt is easier to press on the G-spot or anterior wall; at the same time, the clitoris is indirectly impacted (especially when the male leans forward and the pelvis presses on the clitoris).
- Depth and ControlThe male kneeling position allows for free adjustment of the angle (straight insertion or upward rubbing to rub the G-spot), and the depth can be adjusted from shallow to deep at will, suitable for girls who want to be "forcefully penetrated" or "slowly rubbed to orgasm".
- Visual stimulationThe boy can see the girl's full-body reactions (blushing, moaning, breast jiggling), and the girl can look up at the boy's muscles/expressions, increasing her sense of dominance/conquest.
- High durabilityGirls don't get tired lying down, and although boys have to support themselves with their arms while kneeling, it's less strenuous than lying face down and they can stay in that position for longer.
- Suitable for those with large weight differencesGuys don't need to press down on girls completely, so girls won't feel suffocated.
Practical Tips and Variations
- Basic entry
The girl lies on the edge or in the middle of the bed with her legs straight and together (or slightly bent at the knees). The boy kneels between her legs, first stroking/licking her clitoris to warm her up, then slowly inserting himself. The girl can cross her ankles or press her soles against the boy's chest to increase tightness. - Make it easier for women to orgasm
- The man leans forward, pressing his pelvis against the woman's clitoris (like...).Coital Alignment Technique(Variant), rubbing the clitoris while inserting.
- The tighter a woman's legs are pressed together, the greater the vaginal clamping force becomes, doubling the friction sensation. Many women say, "I can orgasm in just a few minutes this way."
- Adding a pillow to a woman's buttocks can create an upward angle, making it easier to reach the G-spot.
- Girls can rub their clitoris or nipples with their hands; the double stimulation can lead to a faster orgasm.
The boy wanted it to be more intense.
- Grab a girl's ankles or calves and lift them up, making her legs form a V shape or press them towards her chest (becoming a "deep penetration version"), which directly doubles the depth.
- When a girl's legs are together, a boy can use slow, deep penetration followed by a pause (pausing for 2 seconds after penetrating to the bottom) to make the girl feel "filled" to the extreme.
- If you want to go all out: the guy kneels up and thrusts with his waist (don't just use your arms), the girl will feel "conquered" and it will feel amazing.
Common changes
- Legs Up versionThe girl raises her leg and puts it on the boy's shoulder; the boy kneels with his leg straighter, and the position is the deepest.
- Closed Legs MissionaryWhen a woman's legs are completely crossed and pressed together, her vagina is at its tightest, making it suitable for men who want it to be "so tight that they can't ejaculate."
- Edge of BedThe girl lies on the edge of the bed with her buttocks hanging off the ground, while the boy stands or kneels on the ground. The angle is perfect, making it ideal for a combination where the boy wants to stand and thrust forcefully.
Precautions
- If a woman's vagina is shallow or not wet enough, she should engage in more foreplay and lubrication to avoid going too deep or using too much force, which could cause pain.
- From a communication perspective: Girls can use phrases like "go a little deeper," "grind here," or "go slower" to guide the conversation.
- Suitable for nights where the girl wants to "lie down and enjoy herself while the guy takes the initiative to serve her," especially if you go straight to sex after foreplay.
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