69 oral sex positions

69oral sexThe position (also known as the "69 position" or "mutual oral sex") is one of the most classic oral sex positions. The name comes from the fact that the shape of the two people's bodies when they are intertwined looks like the number "69".

Classic 69 position: One partner lies on their back while the other lies on their stomach (usually the woman on top and the man on the bottom), head to tail, each using their mouth to service the other's genitals. The woman can take the penis into her mouth (or lick the penis and testicles), while the man licks the clitoris, labia, or vaginal opening, allowing both partners to enjoy stimulation simultaneously.

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Key points and tips

• advantageIt offers equality, intimacy, and a strong sense of stimulation, allowing both partners to experience pleasure simultaneously and easily reach orgasm together.
• shortcomingMany people get distracted by the pleasure, causing them to "forget to serve the other person" or experience neck and back pain when there is a large height or weight difference.

Practical advice:

• Warm up the body with kisses and caresses first, then slowly move to 69 to avoid being too intense at the beginning.
• You can place a pillow under your lower back or neck to make the angle more comfortable.
• When the girl is on top, the boy can use his hands to support the girl's buttocks or thighs to reduce the pressure on the girl's knees/lower back.
• Communication is very important: you can talk about where to lick more, whether to use light or heavy pressure, and whether to use your hands for assistance while doing it.
• People who enjoy deep throating or strong clitoral sucking will especially love this position, but they should also pay attention to their breathing and rhythm.

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Common variations (advanced gameplay)

Many people feel that making the classic version becomes tiring or monotonous after a while. Here are some common changes:

1. Side lying 69(Most recommended for beginners/long-term users)
   The two lay on their sides, like spoons but with their heads and tails reversed, hugging each other's hips.
   Advantages: No neck fatigue, can be done for a long time, and hands can freely touch other parts of the body.
2. Male on top (inverted 69 or 96)
   The girl lies down, and the boy is on top.
   Suitable for men who want to control the depth/rhythm, or women who want to focus on being licked.
3. Sitting posture 69(Sofa/Bedside Version)
   The boy sits down, and the girl lies upside down on him (with her legs hanging over his shoulders or supported by the back of the chair).
   Stable yet exciting, perfect for guys who want to take it easy.
4. Standing 69(High difficulty)
   The boy stands up, picks up the girl, and inverts her (the girl's legs are wrapped around the boy's neck).
   It's very similar to wrestling moves, requiring a lot of physical strength, but it's also extremely visually appealing and stimulating.
5. Type 68(Modified version)
   The girl is on top but her head is facing the same direction. She is specifically licking the boy's vulva or anus. The girl uses her hands or toys to help the boy.

Regardless of the version, the key point is...pleasing each otherIt's not about competing to see who climaxes first. Many people initially find it "too distracting," but with more practice, they become more synchronized and enjoy it more and more.

The core principle that makes it easier to reach orgasm in 69 is actually quite simple:Transform "serving each other simultaneously" into "mutually amplifying pleasure."It's not about competing to see who can bring the other to orgasm first. Many people get stuck on "being too excited and distracted" or "not being focused enough on stimulation." Here are the most effective techniques in practice, explained separately for men and women/general use.

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General tips (applicable to both people)

1. Don't rush to 69
   Sufficient foreplay (at least 15-20 minutes) is essential to ensure the clitoris/penis is engorged and sensitive before engaging in 69. Many people jump straight into 69, but because they haven't yet gotten into the mood, they struggle to reach climax even after prolonged stimulation.
2. Side-lying 69 > Classic flat-lying 69
   Lying on your side (like a spoon but with the head and tail reversed) is the easiest way to achieve orgasm:

• Zero pressure on the neck and back, can hold for a long time
• Hands can be used freely for assistance (touching nipples, inserting fingers, pressing the clitoris).
• The angle of the female clitoris is easier to align with the tongue, and the male penis will not be flattened.
  Suggestion: The girl should raise her upper leg slightly (or the boy should support it with his hand) to fully expose the clitoris.

Focus on one side until it reaches the edge, then switch sides.(Most effective way to overcome orgasm barriers)
When many people are stimulated at the same time, no one can reach their peak. Try this:

• First, let the girl focus on being licked until she's "almost at orgasm but not quite" (to the point where the pleasure is at 8-9 points). At this point, the girl will naturally become very wet and sensitive.
• Then the girl goes all out to serve the boy, and the boy will become even faster because he hears/feels the girl's excitement.
• When they switch back to each other, they often climax together or within seconds of each other.

A three-in-one toy combining hands, mouth, and toys.
The mouth focuses on the most sensitive spots (clitoral glans/coronal sulcus of the glans penis), while the hands handle the other areas.

• Girl: Inserting fingers into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot + steadily licking the clitoris with the tongue.
• Male: Inserting fingers into the vagina/anus + sucking/licking the clitoris with the tongue
• Adding a vibrating egg/finger vibrator to the clitoris or perineum doubles the stimulation, and many women say, "This makes it much easier to orgasm during 69."

Rhythm and communication are extremely important

• Don't suddenly change the rhythm when you're close to climax (many people speed up or change the method when they get excited, which actually cuts off the pleasure).
• Use verbal or gestural cues: "Keep it up," "Faster," "Be gentler."
• Before climax, many people unconsciously stop servicing their partner → Simply saying "I'm almost there, keep going" solves the problem.

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Tips for women to orgasm more easily

• Clitoris is king:99% Female orgasms are achieved through clitoral stimulation. Male partners should use a combination of "covering the clitoris + gently sucking + circling with the tip of the tongue", instead of just poking with the tip of the tongue.
• When the girl is on top, she should push her hips forward slightly so that her clitoris is directly pressed against the boy's mouth/tongue, and she should control the friction intensity and speed herself (this is the fastest way for many girls to reach orgasm).
• When the girl is on top, the boy can use his fingers to assist the G-spot and his tongue to target the clitoris. This dual stimulation greatly increases the chances of orgasm.
• If a woman has difficulty reaching orgasm, it's easier for them to synchronize if the man focuses on licking the rim first, and then the woman starts oral sex.

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Tips for men to orgasm more easily

• Before a woman climaxes, her breathing becomes rapid and her body tenses up, which makes the man hear/feel extremely excited → naturally accelerating his ejaculation.
• A woman can simultaneously stroke the base of the penis with her hand and use her mouth to target the glans/frenulum; this dual stimulation makes it easier for a man to ejaculate than simply deep throating.
• If a guy tends to come too quickly, he can make the girl orgasm once by being licked first. The guy will be more sensitive because he "just saw the girl orgasm", and he will often come faster during the second 69.

Summary of the strongest combination (many people have tested and found it most likely to result in a double orgasm):
Side-lying 69 + Ample foreplay + Bring the girl to the edge first → Mutual full effort + Finger assistance + Maintain a consistent rhythm → Girl climaxes first → Boy ejaculates afterward.

Further reading:

• 69 position + The woman simultaneously masturbates the man's penis with her hand.
• Why is standing 69 pleasurable? What are the requirements?
• Why is oral sex at 69 while sitting on a chair with a backrest stimulating?
• 69 Sex Position