Reverse 69 oral sex position
Reversal69Oral sex position Reverse 69 (also called Inverted 69, male on top 69, or some people simply call it "reverse")69(This is) the male on top and the female on the bottom, with the roles reversed, and they use their mouths to serve each other. Compared to the classic 69 (female on top, male on the bottom), the roles are completely reversed.
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Reverse 69 (flat version)The girl lies on her back, and the boy lies on top of her (or kneels on his stomach), his penis pointing downwards into her mouth, with his mouth aligned with her genitals. Visually, the boy is more dominant, and the girl feels as if she is being "pressed down" and serviced, but she can also perform deep throat or control the rhythm at the same time.
The main differences compared to the classic 69
- Who's on top?When the man is on top, it is easier for him to control the depth and rhythm (especially the depth of penetration into the woman's mouth). The woman is more passive but experiences less neck pressure (because she is lying down).
- Angle and feeling:
- For men: When the penis is pointing downwards, the glans is more easily enveloped by the woman's tongue/lips. During deep throating, gravity helps it "slide in," which many men find more stimulating and allows them to ejaculate faster.
- For women: The angle of the clitoris/labia becomes more "open," making it easier for the man's tongue to cover the clitoris or insert into it. However, if the man's weight presses down, the woman may feel some pressure on her breathing or neck.
- Vision and PsychologyMen feel a sense of "dominance" when they are on top, and women can see the men's buttocks/perineum (some people love it, while others find the view too "hairy" or awkward).
- DurabilityIt's more tiring for the guy to be on top (he has to support himself with his arms/knees), but it's easier for the girl to lie down and focus on being licked until she orgasms.
Practical Tips and Precautions
Support and comfort(Most importantly, avoid neck pain or suffocation)
- The girl should place a pillow under her head so that her neck is naturally aligned with the penis.
- Men should support their bodies with their arms/knees, and not lean down completely (especially when there is a large weight difference).
- If the guy wants to push deeper, they should first discuss "how deep is okay" and the girl can hold the base of the penis with her hand to control it.
- Breathing: When a girl's mouth is stuffed, remember to breathe through her nose; when a boy is licking, don't press too hard on the girl's nose.
Make it easier for women to orgasm
- The boy can use his hands to assist: use one hand to support the girl's buttocks and lift her up so that her clitoris is completely close to her mouth; use the other hand to insert fingers into her vagina to hook her G-spot.
- Use your tongue to target the clitoris (suck and circle), don't just poke the vaginal opening.
- Girls can rub their nipples or press their clitoris with their hands; the double stimulation will lead to a faster orgasm.
- Many girls say that because the Reverse version is more open, men can lick deeper and more accurately, resulting in stronger clitoral stimulation than the classic version.
Makes it easier for men to ejaculate
- Girls can use their hands to stroke the base of the penis and use their mouths to focus on the glans/frenulum.
- Gravity makes it easier for the penis to slide into the deep throat, and if the woman actively sucks/swallows, the man often can't hold back for more than a few minutes.
- If you want to prolong the orgasm, make the girl orgasm once first (the boy will be more excited by hearing the girl moan, but the threshold for ejaculation will also be raised).
Common Problem Solving
- The girl felt uncomfortable being "pressed down" → Change it to the boy kneeling on the bed and the girl lying on the edge of the bed with her head slightly lowered (like hanging upside down, but not completely upside down).
- If a guy's buttocks are too embarrassing to see, he should take a shower and groom himself first, or a girl should close her eyes and focus on the sensation of her mouth.
- Too fast ejaculation → Warm up with the classic 69 first, let the girl reach the edge first, then switch to Reverse. The guy will be more sensitive because he "just watched the girl orgasm", but it is also easier to control.
Variation (if you're tired of lying flat and doing the Reverse pose)
- Kneeling ReverseThe girl lies on the edge of the bed, and the boy kneels on the floor/bed, making it easier to control the angle.
- Side-lying ReverseThe two lie on their sides, but the man is on top to reduce pressure.
- Standing/Carrying Version(High difficulty): The boy stands up and lifts the girl upside down, with the girl's legs wrapped around the boy's neck (super exciting, but physically demanding).
Man on top, Reverse 69, forcefully thrusting into woman's mouth
(That is, the man is on top and the woman is lying down, receiving "face fuck" or deep throat penetration) is possible, and many people find it extremely stimulating and gives them a strong sense of dominance, butIt's definitely not something you can just do by applying too much force..
Prerequisites
Both parties communicated clearly beforehand.
- Girls should clearly state, "I'm okay with deep penetration, I want to try face fuck, and to what extent is acceptable (e.g., shallow penetration, deep throat is acceptable but not for too long, gags are allowed but no vomiting)."
- Boys need to clarify the boundaries: depth, speed, duration, and when to stop.
- EstablishNon-verbal safety signals(Because his mouth was stuffed and he couldn't speak):
- If a girl pats a boy's thigh two (or three times) = stop immediately/pull out.
- Pinching a guy's thigh or patting the bed = slower/lighter
- A thumbs-up means "Keep going" or "Great job!"
- If a girl has asthma, a sensitive throat, a history of vomiting, or has recently caught a cold, she should avoid vigorous activity.
Girls prepare
- Warm up first: Start with normal oral sex to relax your mouth/throat and increase saliva production (you can use coconut oil or edible lubricant as an aid to reduce friction).
- Practice controlling gag reflex: Girls can first practice deep throating with their fingers/toys to get familiar with the feeling.
- Posture is important: Girls should place a pillow under their head so that their neck and throat are in a straight line (don't bend it, otherwise it may get stuck or hurt). If it's a side-lying bed (with the girl's head hanging off the edge), the angle is even better, but the neck needs to be well supported.
- Breathing: Breathe through your nose. When the man penetrates, the woman should not hold her breath for too long (maximum 5-10 seconds per round, give her time to catch her breath).
How to insert forcefully for both safety and pleasure
- From slow to fast, from shallow to deepNever rush in at the beginning.
First, insert shallowly (only halfway into the mouth) to let the girl get used to the rhythm → then slowly deepen → only speed up when the girl actively pushes forward or pulls the boy's buttocks with her hands.
Many people rush ahead when they get excited, resulting in girls vomiting or having a sore throat for several days. - Controlling depth and angle
- Boys should use their arms/knees to support their bodies, and not put all their weight down (putting weight on the neck is extremely dangerous).
- The angle of the penis should be aligned with a straight line to the throat (with the woman's chin slightly raised), and not against the side (it will hurt or get stuck).
- If you want to go deep throat and go hard: the guy can grab the sides of the girl's head (but don't press down hard), or the girl can use her hand to hold the base of the penis to control the depth.
- Rhythm: Use the "in-stop-out" mode (insert all the way in, pause for 1-2 seconds to let the girl get used to it, and then slowly pull out), which is safer and more stimulating than continuous, forceful insertion.
- Pay attention to the girl's reaction.
- Listen to the sound/look at the body: If a girl's voice becomes louder, she cries more, her body is tense, and her hands move erratically → immediately slow down or stop.
- It's normal for girls to make gurgling sounds or have a lot of saliva; but if it turns into gagging or vomiting, stop.
- Before climax, men often speed up. At this time, ask the woman, "Can I go harder?" or look for signals.
Risks and Follow-up Care
- Common risksSymptoms include: throat abrasion/bruising, hoarseness for several days, neck pain, and mild vomiting (saliva + stomach acid). In severe cases, laryngeal swelling and airway problems may occur (rarely, but can happen with force and no communication).
- afterwardsFor women, drinking warm water, rinsing the mouth frequently, and sucking on throat lozenges can relieve discomfort. Avoid vigorous activity for a few days.
- If the pain lasts for more than 2–3 days or there is difficulty swallowing → See a doctor.
Forced penetration can feel great, but only if the girl really wants it, you're on the same page, and you start slowly to warm up.Many girls love this sense of dominance, but hate being "suddenly overwhelmed" or feeling "like they can't breathe." Men already have an advantage when they're on top; don't rely on brute force, use control combined with communication for a lasting and safe experience.
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