How to play the Full Nelson sex position?

The Full Nelson sex position originates from wrestling control techniques and is considered a sexual position.High difficulty, advancedThe positions are visually stimulating and create a strong sense of dominance/submission, but...The risk is also relatively high.Especially for the neck and spine.

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Standard practice (the most common lying-down version)

1. The person below (the inserter)Lie flat on your back on the bed or floor with your knees bent and the balls of your feet on the ground (providing a support for pushing upwards).
2. The person above (the one being inserted into)Lie on top of her with your back to her (similar to reverse cowgirl), first sit on top and insert like in reverse cowgirl, then slowly lie back.
3. Key Lockdown Action:

• The person below took their arm from the person above.underarm/inner thighGo through,
• Then clasp your hands on the person above.back of the neck(Interlock your fingers, or as close to your neck as possible).
• At the same time, pull the person's legs apart to the sides and press their knees towards their chest/shoulder (forming a "folded" posture).

Insertion and ActionOnce inserted, the person below uses their feet to brace themselves and their core strength to thrust upwards. The person above is almost completely immobilized, only able to slightly sway their hips or contract their pelvis.

Features: Deep angle, strong stimulation of G-spot/A-spot, strong visual impact, and a sense of compulsion.

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Safe version modification

Most people don't have that kind of neck flexibility, nor the control of a wrestler, soDon't grab his neck directly.:

• Only clasp the inner thighs or behind the knees (with your arms under your thighs to hug your knees or calves).
• This results in almost zero neck pressure, but still a strong sense of vision and control.
• Once both individuals are used to it, have strong enough cores, and sufficient flexibility, then we can gradually consider trying the neck-binding version.

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Risks and Techniques to Note

• Neck/Cervical spineThe most dangerous spot. Never forcefully press your head forward or pull your neck down! This move is forbidden in real wrestling because it can cause cervical spine compression, nerve damage, and even more serious consequences. During sex, simply lightly touch your neck or don't touch it at all; it's much safer.
• breatheBeing compressed like this will squeeze your chest and make it difficult to breathe. It is recommended to play for a short time (change positions every 3-8 minutes).
• weight differenceThe person below must be able to withstand the full weight of the person above plus the force of impact; their core and leg strength must be very strong.
• lubricatingYou need to use plenty of lubricant because the angle is very deep and the friction is high; it will hurt easily if it dries out.
• communicateBeforehand, agree on safety phrases (e.g., stop immediately at a red light). During the procedure, frequently ask, "Is your neck okay?", "Should we loosen it a bit?", "Should we go deeper?"
• Exit postureFirst, let go of each other's legs, then slowly sit up together. Never suddenly let go and cause the other person's neck to snap back.

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Who is it suitable for? Who is it not suitable for?

Suitable for: Both partners are fit, have a habit of exercising, are flexible, like a strong sense of dominance, and have already tried many positions and want to advance.

Not suitable for: people with cervical spine problems, scoliosis, asthma, large weight differences, weak core strength, poor flexibility, or poor communication skills.

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Preparation

1. The two of you should warm up for 10–15 minutes (foreplay, oral sex, or other positions) to relax your bodies, improve blood circulation, and ensure adequate lubrication of the vagina/anus.
2. PrepareLarge amounts of water-based lubricant(Deep angle, high friction, it will hurt when it dries).
3. Choose a stable place: a firm mattress, a floor with a yoga mat or thick blanket (to prevent slipping).
4. settingsSafeword(For example, "red light" means stop immediately, "yellow light" means slow down or release).
5. The weight difference should not be too large (the person below should be able to withstand the full weight of the person above plus the impact force).
6. It was confirmed that neither of them had any old neck/spine/shoulder injuries, asthma, or other health problems.

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Standard Full Nelson (Neck-cuff version)

(Suitable for two people who are already very familiar with each other, have excellent flexibility, and have a very strong core)

Step-by-step breakdown:

1. The person below (the inserting party, referred to as the "bottom"):
   Lie flat on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the bed (use your heels to push off the ground and provide thrust). Place your hands naturally at your sides and engage your core for stability.
2. The person above (the one being inserted into, referred to as "the top"):
   FirstReverse cowgirl (female on top)Sit astride the penis/toy at the base, facing the feet. Insert slowly (shallowly at first).
3. Slowly tilt your head back:
   Place your hands on your chest or the bed surface and slowly lie back, letting your back touch your chest. At the same time, raise your legs and bend your knees towards your chest/shoulders, forming a V-shape or a more folded posture (like the "Happy Baby Pose" in yoga).
4. bottom arm through:
   Bottom arm from toparmpits and inner thighsPass through simultaneously (one hand on each side). First, use your arms to hold the inside of the top thigh or behind the knee for support.
5. Lock the neck (key step):
   Continue moving your hands upwards, interlocking your fingers or pressing your palms together, gently clasping them at the top.back of the neck(Don't pull hard! Just gently tap or support it.) Slightly tuck your chin in (to avoid overextending your neck).
   → At this moment, the top's legs are pulled wide apart, the knees are pressed towards the chest, and the body is almost "folded" and fixed.
6. Adjust Insertion:
   If it's not fully inserted yet, you can use the balls of your feet to support your weight and slightly raise your hips to realign and insert deeper. The angle will be very deep (often reaching the A-spot/G-spot/prostate).
7. Start Action:
   The bottom part uses the balls of the feet, glutes, and core strength to thrust upwards (not just using the waist, but also the legs). During the upward thrust, movement is almost limited, only pelvic contraction or slight twisting. The bottom part allows control of rhythm, depth, and speed.
8. DurationChange positions every 5-10 minutes at most to avoid chest compression that can cause shortness of breath.

Exit Method:
First, loosen the neck lock → release your legs → slowly lift your upper body with your hands → sit up together → slowly pull out.

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Safe Recommendation (Don't grab my neck, just hug my legs)

(The visual and control sensations are equally strong, but there is zero pressure on the neck, making the risk much lower.)

The steps are the same as above, up to step 4, then change it to:

5. Lock thigh:
   With both arms reaching under the armpits/inner thighs, directly hug the top.Behind the kneeorcalves(Like holding a child). Pull your arms outward and downward forcefully, so that the top leg opens wide and the knee is close to your chest.
   You can clasp your hands together above your abdomen with your fingers interlocked, or place them directly on the back of your knees.Not touching the neck at all.

The other steps (6–8) are the same.

advantageThe neck feels safe, breathing is relatively smooth, and there is less oxygen deficiency at the top of the head, but there is still a strong sense of being controlled/folded.

The demand is extremely high.

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Full Nelson anal sex version

Anal sex in this position is actuallyRelatively easy to enterBecause the legs of the person being penetrated are significantly spread apart and the buttocks are raised, the anus becomes more directly angled and easier to align. The stimulation points are mainly...prostate(For people with penises) or deep nerves (for anyone), the sensation will be very intense and "full".

Step-by-step breakdown (based on the previous safe version: do not grab the neck, only hug the legs):

Preparation phase (extremely important):

• Foreplay should last at least 20–30 minutes to allow the anal sphincter to fully relax (you can use your fingers, tongue, or small toys to gradually dilate it).
• useLarge amount of thick lubricant(Silicone-based or specialized anal sex lubricant is best; water-based is also acceptable but needs to be replenished). Apply to the penis/toy, inside and outside the anus, and around the area.
• The inserted party (top) uses first.doggy styleAlternatively, practice insertion while lying on your side to allow the sphincter muscles to get used to the depth.
• Make sure your hips/lower back are flexible enough (yoga or stretching can help).

Bottom (insertion side) positioning:

• Lie flat on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the bed (use your heels to provide a fulcrum for pushing against the bed). You can place a pillow under your hips to elevate your pelvis and increase the angle.

Top (the inserted party) enters:

• FirstReverse female-on-topSit on the seat with your feet facing down and slowly insert the penis into your anus (start shallowly and then go deeper once the sphincter relaxes).
• After insertion, slowly lie back, with your back against your chest. Raise your legs and bend your knees towards your chest/shoulders, forming a folded V-shape.

Thigh locking (safety lock):

• With your lower arm reaching under your armpit/inner thigh, hug the back of your knee or calf (interlock your fingers or clasp your hands tightly around the back of your knee).
• Pull outwards and press downwards forcefully, causing the legs to spread wide and the buttocks to rise (this will make the anus more "open").
• Don't put your neckNeck pressure can cause the sphincter muscles to tighten involuntarily, making it difficult or painful to enter the vagina.

Adjusting the angle and inserting:

• The hips will naturally rise, aligning with the soles of the feet, using the core muscles to push upwards.
• Anal sex techniques:Pushing downwards or towards the navel(Prostate milking angle) will directly stimulate the prostate. The top can be achieved by contracting the pelvis (Kegel) or gently rocking the hips to increase friction.
• At the beginningExtremely slow, extremely shallow(Only penetrate the head), wait until the top is completely relaxed before increasing the depth. Stop if it hurts, and immediately apply lubricant.

Action and Time:

• Use leg strength to primarily engage in the impact (not waist strength, to avoid waist injury).
• Time control3–8 minutesAnal sex combined with this folding position can easily lead to oxygen deficiency or sphincter fatigue.
• Add toys: Hold your legs with one hand and use a vibrator with the other to stimulate your clitoris/penis/perineum for double stimulation and ultimate pleasure.

quitFirst, loosen your legs → slowly sit up → slowly pull out (the anal sphincter will contract, so don't pull out suddenly).

Additional security reminders:

• High risk of sphincter tear: Never force it, pain = stop.
• The bottom must be able to withstand the entire weight of the top plus the reaction force of the impact.
• Frequent communication: "How deep is it?" "Should we slow down?"

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Standing variant Full Nelson

This isExtremely high difficultyThis version requires the user to stand and lift the entire weight of the person on top, plus a headbutt. It is suitable for two people with exceptional strength and a moderate height difference (the person on top should be taller than or roughly the same height as the person on the bottom). It offers superior visual control but carries higher risks (falls, neck/back injuries).

Step-by-step breakdown:

Prepare:

• Warm up + plenty of lubricant (it dries more easily when standing).
• It's best to place it against a wall or the side of the bed (with the top and back against the wall to distribute the weight).
• Safety words are mandatory (high risk of falling).

Starting position:

• Stand upright with your back to the bottom, bend over slightly or squat down, and let the bottom insert from behind (either vaginal or anal first).
• After insertion, the top legs are slightly open.

locking:

• Hug from behind: Pass your arms under your armpits, around your inner thighs, and hug your knees or calves as you lift them up.
• Spread your legs wide apart and press your knees toward your chest (your body will lift off the ground or halfway off the ground).
• Neck-clamping versionMove your hands up and gently tap the back of your neck (but this is extremely dangerous! It can easily cause cervical spine injury, and is strongly discouraged for beginners).
• Safe version: Only hug the thighs/knees, do not touch the neck.

action:

• Use leg strength and core strength to lift/fix the top, keeping the penis/toy inserted.
• Push against the bottom, swing your hips back and forth or slightly bend and extend your knees (not just lift with your arms).
• The top of the head is almost suspended in the air, and one can only twist the hips or contract the muscles slightly.

Time and Exit:

• most1–3 minutesJust put it down (the bottom leg will get very tired).
• Slowly lower the top leg → let the top foot touch the ground → slowly pull it out.

Variation suggestions:

• Standing against the wallThe top is against the wall, and the bottom is supported from behind, with the wall sharing part of the weight, making it more durable.
• Half-standingPlace one foot on the ground or a chair to reduce the burden on the lower body.

Who is suitableThis combination is suitable for fitness enthusiasts, those with a weightlifting/wrestling background, and those with exceptionally strong cores. It is not recommended for combinations with large weight differences or insufficient strength, as it increases the risk of injury.

Anal sex versionThe key features are abundant lubrication, slow heating, and a prostate-angled design.Standing versionIt's a power show

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Add toy version

In this posture, the legs are stretched wide and the body is folded.Private parts fully exposedIt's perfect for adding toys to provide more stimulation (clitoral/prostate/nipples/perineum). The key is whose hands are active: the bottom (insertion side) is busy holding the legs with both hands, so most toys are designed for this purpose.The top (the one being inserted into) controls itself.Alternatively, one can hold the leg with one hand and operate with the other.

Recommended toys & how to play:

Wand vibrator

• Best choice: Hold it yourself, and after your legs are spread apart, press it directly against your clitoris/penis base/perineum.
• How to apply: After insertion, hold the wand with one or both hands and press it against the sensitive spot. The combination of thrusting and vibration provides double stimulation, making orgasm easier.
• Tip: Warm up with low speed, then sprint at medium to high speed. At the top, you can slightly contract your pelvis to allow the vibration to penetrate internally.
• Suitable for: People who want to stimulate their clit/external prostate.

Bullet vibrator or finger vibrator:

• The tip is held between the fingers, targeting the clitoris/nipple/perineum.
• Alternatively, one hand can hold the leg while the other hand holds a bullet to press down on the clitoris (if the arm is long enough).
• Advantages: Compact size, does not interfere with the leg-hugging motion.

Cock ring with vibrator(Vibrate the penile ring; if there is a penis at the bottom):

• When the ring is put on, it simultaneously stimulates the base of the penis and the clitoris/perineum.
• Suitable for: Both parties want more vibration.

Butt plug / anal plug(If vaginal insertion is performed):

• First, put on the vibrating plug. When inserting it, the plug presses against the prostate/posterior wall, increasing the feeling of fullness.
• Or wear a plug at the bottom, so you can feel it more when you bump into it.
• Nipple clamps or remote-controlled toys:

• Wearing nipple clamps increases the levels of pain/pleasure.
• Toys controlled by an app (such as Lovense) and toys whose bottom can be remotely controlled from the top enhance the sense of control.

Step-by-step fine-tuning:

• First insert and lock the leg → then adjust the position with the toy.
• Slow down the bottom bumping rhythm and let the top focus on the toy.
• The duration is short (5–10 minutes), the toys vibrate strongly, and they are prone to overstimulation.
• Lubrication: Apply lubricant to the toy as well to avoid friction pain.

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Strap-on version of Full Nelson

The Strap-on version is perfectly feasible, andThe angle is perfect for prostate stimulation(P-spot milking). The bottom becomes the "wearer," and the top is the receiver (usually the person who wants to be peged). The posture is the same, but the length of the strap-on is important (too short and it won't penetrate deeply, too long and it may be uncomfortable).

Step-by-step breakdown (Safe version: No neck restraint):

Prepare:

• Wear a strap-on sole (I recommend a vibrating or double-headed one so the sole can feel the vibration).
• Use plenty of lubricant (essential for anal sex), and warm up beforehand (use fingers/small toys to expand the sphincter muscles).
• Lie flat on your back with your knees bent and feet on the bed (strap-on facing up).
• First, the woman sits on top of you, facing away from you, and slowly inserts your penis (facing the direction of her feet).

Entry posture:

• Slowly lean back until your back touches your chest.
• Raise both legs and bend your knees toward your chest/shoulders.
• With your lower arm reaching under your upper armpit/inner thigh, hug the back of your knee or calf, and pull outwards/press down forcefully to widen your upper leg and raise your hips (strap-on makes it easier to penetrate).

Insertion and Action:

• After lying completely flat on your back, use the balls of your feet to support your weight and engage your glutes/core strength to thrust upwards.
• Angled towards the navel/prostate (prostate angle), the top will feel very deep and full.
• The top can contract the pelvis (Kegel) or gently rock the hips, increasing friction.
• Control the rhythm at the bottom: slow deep top + fast shallow pullback.

Add toy reinforcement:

• If the strap-on at the bottom has vibration, both partners will feel it.
• Wearing a cock ring/vibrating ring on top of your head will make your penis vibrate as well.
• Pressing your penis/perineum against the top of your head causes a double orgasm.
• With one hand holding the leg and the other holding a bullet, stimulate the perineum/testicles.

Standing variant Strap-on version:

• Stand upright and lift your head from behind (hug your knees with your arms and pull them apart).
• The top is suspended in the air or half against the wall, and the bottom is rammed by the leg force.
• It relies more on core/leg strength, but has a super strong visual presence (Pegg's dominance is maxed out).

Safety & Tips:

• Strap-on length: Medium to long (5–7 inches) is best; too short will result in a disadvantage at the angle.
• Communication: The sphincter/prostate is sensitive; if it hurts, stop and apply lubricant.
• You need to train your core (this posture, the strap-on, has a large impact reaction force).
• Exit: Slowly loosen your legs → Sit up → Slowly pull out (the sphincter muscles will tighten).
• Suitable for: People who want to experience intense domination and prostate orgasm.

Add toysTransform Full Nelson from simple deep penetration into multiple stimulations;strap-on versionThis transforms the position into an advanced version of classic pegging, delivering an unparalleled sense of dominance/submission. Both variations should begin with the safe, lying-down version, ensuring sufficient warm-up and ample lubrication.

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Frequently Asked Questions & Fine-tuning Techniques

• I feel neck/back pain at the top of my head. → Immediately loosen the neck buckle, or switch to the thigh version.
• The bottom does not reach the deepest point → Move the sole of your foot forward a little (closer to your buttocks), or place a pillow under your buttocks to elevate your pelvis.
• Leg cramps → Don't stretch too far at first, gradually increase the range of motion; or just play half-fold (the legs don't need to press down on the chest).
• Lower back/legs tired → Shorten the time, or let the top leg step on the bed surface to share some of the weight.
• Want to add toys → You can hold your leg with one hand and use your fingers/vibrator to stimulate your clitoris/nipple with the other.

This position is essentially a combination of "extreme deep penetration + body control," and the pleasure lies in...The feeling of utter helplessness and complete domination + extremely deep angleBut it really requires a lot of physical strength and flexibility. Don't force yourself just to look "cool". Start with the safe version and adjust as you play to find the version that suits you best.

Further reading:

• How to play the prone doggy style sex position?
• Methods to improve premature ejaculation
• Why do some women make sounds during intercourse?
• Coordination and Alignment Techniques